Tommy Dorfman Calls Out Fellow Passenger for Transphobic Texts During Flight
NEW YORK, NEW YORK - MAY 16: Tommy Dorfman attends the 2025 Drama League Awards at The Ziegfeld Ballroom on May 16, 2025 in New York City. Photo Credit: (Photo by Michael Loccisano/Getty Images)
Tommy Dorfman, best known for her role in the Netflix series “13 Reasons Why,” has detailed an incident in which a man seated next to her on a first‑class flight allegedly sent a stream of transphobic text messages about her to multiple contacts. Dorfman posted photos and a short video to Instagram on May 1 showing the man’s phone screen as he typed derogatory messages describing her and complaining about sitting next to a transgender woman.
Dorfman also documented what she described as “deeply misogynistic and revolting” comments from the man about flight attendants on the same flight, including a video clip of him texting about how he found a member of the cabin crew “hot as hell.” Reporting on the incident notes that the actor characterized his behaviour as brazen, given that he was allegedly sending the messages in full view of her and other passengers.
Dorfman’s public response and ‘alt‑right vampire’ remark
In a caption accompanying the Instagram post, Dorfman wrote that she understood she might not be perceived as “passing” according to some people’s expectations, but emphasized that passing “hasn’t been the point” for her and “nor should it be for any trans person.” She framed her gender expression as rooted in alignment and autonomy for her own comfort rather than in fulfilling external expectations or societal norms about how transgender women should look.
Dorfman wrote that the “audacity of this man so blatantly blasting off texts” about her during the flight “only reaffirms the choices” she has made to feel safe and comfortable in her body and spirit, even as those choices can come with trade‑offs in terms of safety and comfort in public spaces. She noted that she feels fortunate to have the ability to travel, to share such experiences online, and to have a platform that many transgender people facing similar treatment do not.
Explaining why she chose to post about the encounter, Dorfman ended her caption by saying “because i can and this man is an alt right vampire AND because samantha deserves her flowers,” a line that has been widely quoted in coverage of the incident. One outlet noted that her description of the man as an “alt‑right vampire” was part of a broader online conversation about how extremist or conspiratorial views can inform harassment of transgender people in everyday settings.
In one of the images, Dorfman overlaid the phrase “someone get your grandpa” on a screenshot of the text conversation, a reference that other outlets have interpreted as pointing to the age difference between her and the passenger and to generational divides in attitudes toward transgender people. Reports also note that she publicly responded to one of the passenger’s contacts by writing “wait samantha ily girl,” underscoring her appreciation for the empathetic reply.
The texts, ‘Samantha,’ and visible allyship
Screenshots published in entertainment and LGBTQ+ media show that one of the man’s contacts, identified as “Samantha,” responded to his messages by urging him to remember that many people he loves are LGBTQ+ and that “this country sucks for them right now,” before adding “Be kind!” Coverage has highlighted this message as a moment of in‑group accountability, in which someone within the passenger’s text circle directly challenged his language and asked for empathy.
Another person in the group chat, identified in screenshots as possibly named “Dave,” wrote in response to the complaint, “You got one, a brand new one!” in apparent reference to sitting next to a transgender woman, a line that Dorfman described in her caption as “kinda tore with this,” indicating she saw some levity or support in that particular reply. Articles on the incident note that the mix of responses in the group chat—hostile from the sender, empathetic from Samantha, and somewhat playful from Dave—reflects the range of reactions that can appear within a single social circle when transgender people are discussed.
Dorfman’s praise for Samantha, including her statement that “samantha deserves her flowers,” has been widely cited as a recognition of everyday allyship in a situation where the direct target of harassment could see the messages in real time. Commentators in LGBTQ+ outlets have suggested that the incident illustrates how people within private conversations can intervene when they witness transphobic language, even if they are not physically present.
Online reaction and celebrity support
Several entertainment and LGBTQ+ publications report that Dorfman’s post drew a substantial response from followers and fellow public figures, with many leaving comments condemning the alleged behaviour and expressing support for her. Among those who publicly reacted was actor Amanda Seyfried, who commented that those involved were “scared and dumb” except for “Sam,” a response that has been quoted in multiple reports.
Coverage from LGBTQ+ outlets notes that many commenters praised Dorfman’s decision to share the incident publicly, seeing it as shedding light on the kinds of harassment transgender people can face in routine situations such as flights or other forms of public transport. Some articles also emphasized that the response on social media included both expressions of solidarity and discussions about bystander intervention, digital privacy, and the ethics of photographing another passenger’s phone screen in order to document abusive behaviour.
At the time of the most recent reports, no airline had been publicly identified by Dorfman, and outlets note that there has been no public statement from any carrier about the incident. Articles also indicate that Dorfman did not specify the date or route of the flight, beyond describing it as a recent journey on which she was seated in the first row of first class.
Broader context: trans visibility and in‑flight safety
Reports situate the incident in the context of ongoing debates about the safety and dignity of transgender people in public accommodations, including on airplanes where passengers are seated in close quarters for extended periods. Commentators quoted in LGBTQ+ media describe such episodes as examples of how bias, when left unchecked, can escalate from private text messages to public humiliation or fear for the targeted person’s safety.
Dorfman’s reflections about “safety and comfort in the world, especially in america,” which she says are “not without consequence internally and externally,” have been cited as highlighting the emotional and psychological impact of transphobic incidents. Articles note that, in her post, she contrasted her relative privilege—having the means to fly and the platform to speak—with the realities faced by many transgender people who may experience similar hostility without comparable visibility or support.
Dorfman publicly came out as a transgender woman in 2021, a detail mentioned in multiple articles to situate this latest incident within her broader journey of gender affirmation and media visibility. Media coverage suggests that her decision to document and share the behaviour of the fellow passenger forms part of a wider pattern in which LGBTQ+ public figures use social media to draw attention to discriminatory incidents and to encourage discussion about allyship and accountability.
Questions that remain unanswered
As of the latest reporting, the identity of the man seen in the screenshots has not been made public, and there is no indication that any formal complaint or legal action related to the incident has been filed. Outlets also state that there has been no official response from the man or from anyone claiming to represent him, leaving the public record centered on Dorfman’s documentation and the reactions of those who saw her post.
Reports do not indicate whether airline crew were informed about the texts during the flight or whether any in‑flight report was made, and no outlet has cited confirmation of any internal airline review. Media coverage instead focuses on the social media aftermath and on the broader questions the incident raises about how transgender people are treated, how bystanders respond, and how airlines and other institutions might address similar situations in the future.
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